"How does one become a butterfly?" she asked pensively. "You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar."
-Trina Paulus, Hope for the Flowers
Are you struggling in the dating world? Do you find yourself dissatisfied in relationships or continually seem to find yourself in the "wrong ones?" Have you experienced sexual betrayal? Do you think about divorce or are you going through one? Perhaps earlier pain or trauma is interfering in your present life. Are relationships with family members, such as parents and siblings, causing disturbances for you?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, therapy can be helpful to you. In over 23 years of clinical practice and having worked with hundreds of individuals and couples, I am continually struck by how driven people are to feel better and their ability to heal their pain. If you notice patterns in your choices or behaviors that aren't working well for you or allowing you to achieve your goals, being curious to learn about them is critical to changing them. Patterns CAN change! I work in a way that encourages and supports your growth and healing. Together, we will work in line with your personal goals to improve your overall quality of life and relationships.
It is natural to want to love and be loved. Love and relationships are often at the center of our pursuits towards fulfillment and happiness. If you are dating, we will work together to help you clear the path to finding your right partner. Perhaps you notice negative patterns in your relationship choices that ultimately cause you hurt and pain. We will identify and work towards eliminating those interferences that prevent you from engaging in more fulfilling partnerships with others.
Are you confused and have questions about why your relationship is struggling? If this is a time when you are experiencing a divorce or separation, we will work towards healing the loss of the relationship you once had and dreamed of. We will seek to find clarity that is missing right now. No marriage, even one that ends, is meaningless. You may be asking yourself questions such as, "How did this happen to me? To us? What attracted me to this man/woman? What was I looking for in my partner to fulfill in me? How can I trust myself to make a better choice in the future? How will I pick up the pieces of my life and start over?"
If you feel sad, anxious, or angry, you can improve the quality of your life by lessening the power of these feelings. Having feelings is normal. Understanding them is critical to helping yourself feel better. Healing childhood pain frees you to live more fully now. No one wants to be faced with hardship but you have the power to change how you experience it when it comes.